How to Become the Master of Your Choices

There are a lot of circumstances that we do not have control of some situations easy to handle and some situations complicated and difficult to handle. At present time, even with technology wherein people could easily communicate compared to the times wherein communication was difficult there still are a lot of complications, either due to conflict of beliefs, perceptions, interests and other factores, situations could really become difficult. Whether this may be situations could really become difficult. Whether this may be in foreign or international affairs, national government, business, school, families, relationships or some other circumstances, it could become difficult and complicated.

All of us often encounter problems whether personal or professional. It is a reality that we encounter difficulties, and the usual causes are actually plenty but these are influenced by our decisions and choices, not only one person but involving a lot of people, people who influenced the situation and the perceptions of the people involved wherein the conflict arised from.

The question is how do I resolve this situation? How do I fix my problem? How do I remedy this?

These are the usual first questions in reality...

But in dealing with situations or problems what is supposed to be the first question and necessary steps to be able to see all angles and remedy the situation in a healthy and effecient manner?

- Determine the Problem or the Situation.
(What is the problem or the situation? What is my personal accountability?)

- Determine the source of the problem or situation.
(Where did the problem arise from? Where did I go wrong? How was I thinking and feeling at that time?)

- Review all courses of actions and possible solutions.
(How do I remedy the situation, given all the facts?)

- Make your Choice or Decision while being fully Accountable, Responsible, Confident and Firm with your actions.

Now, in this given situation we see that when we analyze and determine the problem, we find out where the problem is coming from. There may be a personal accountability but occassionally no personal accountability. To analyze where the problem came from or the source of the problem, behind that was a choice and decision whether by you or someone else, but from there we cannot go back in the past and start pointing fingers but to fix the problem and make a choice at present to remedy this for the future.

DETACH YOURSELF FROM A SITUATION AND THINK CLEARLY OF YOUR CHOICES OR DECISIONS NOT INVOLVING YOUR PERCEPTIONS, PERSONAL INTERESTS AND FEELINGS. THEN MAKE AN OBJECTIVE DECISION.

Being master of your choices is difficult. In the earlier articles/ blogs, CHOICES; THE WORLD IS WHAT YOU MAKE IT and REALITY OF LIFE!!! RESPONSIBILITIES, whick all tackled on thinking process' or thought process' (Cognition), feelings, behaviors, attitudes and decisions explains the dynamics of a person. But, even though we understand our dynamics, sometimes it just is not enough to have the right attitude and thoughts to support our feelings and behaviors... We just could be so weak at times...

With these strength of character, high frustration tolerance, firm and positive thought process and understanding of reality and life is needed...

All these combined provides or re-inforces us with insights on thinking straight allowing us to become the Masters of Out Choices...

These self re-inforcements gives us wisdom, which is knowledge put into action. Being strong in character allows us to have a high frustration tolerance while being able to have firm stands or beliefs on what is right or appropriate, like we all do know what is right and wrong, its just that most times the people around us tend to be distorted, at times society could be distorted, but we don't really need to follow "NORMS" knowing that they are inappropriate or wrong. Having a high frustration tolerance allows us to live in stress, pressure, reality and problems without loosing our composures, staying calm and reasonable with our thoughts, feelings and decisions, and not getting affected by the situations given or happening, allowing us to be able to think clearly of our actions. Having a firm and positive thought process would allow us to be optimistic with life, giving us the upper hand in living life happily and positively, with a positive attitude and optimism problems, trials, obstacles does not become one instead this becomes a challenge to live more and learn from each and every experiences allowing us to grow and mature. Understanding reality and life gives us knowledge and wisdom on the world and how it goes around us, because one of the realities is that we are not the center of the world, not being the center of the world means that the world doesn't evolve for you and me only but for everybody else. Living in this world is synergy (learning from each other), like the previous blog i made FATE AND PURPOSE, explaining that we all have our purposes and each event happening in our lives has a purpose to serve not only for one but may also be more, meaning how we live life and understand the deeper meaning of it allows us to be aware of the environment and ourselves, therefore allowing us to become MASTERS OF OUR OWN CHOICES...

STRENGTH OF CHARACTER:
- allows us to have a high frustration tolerance while being able to have firm stands or beliefs on what is right or appropriate, like we all do know what is right and wrong, its just that most times the people around us tend to be distorted, at times society could be distorted, but we don't really need to follow "NORMS" knowing that they are inappropriate or wrong.

HIGH FRUSTRATION TOLERANCE:
- allows us to live in stress, pressure, reality and problems without loosing our composures, staying calm and reasonable with our thoughts, feelings and decisions, and not getting affected by the situations given or happening, allowing us to be able to think clearly of our actions.

FIRM AND POSITIVE THOUGHT PROCESS:
- allow us to be optimistic with life, giving us the upper hand in living life happily and positively, with a positive attitude and optimism problems, trials, obstacles does not become one instead this becomes a challenge to live more and learn from each and every experiences allowing us to grow and mature.

UNDERSTANDING REALITY AND LIFE:
- gives us knowledge and wisdom on the world and how it goes around us, because one of the realities is that we are not the center of the world, not being the center of the world means that the world doesn't evolve for you and me only but for everybody else.

Be in control of yourself by always being aware of yourself...
Be your own master rather than you being the slave of yourself also, its kinda ironic...
Be on top of yourself always and know how to think and then feel then to do or act...

Be the MASTER OF YOUR OWN CHOICES.......