There are a lot of circumstances that we do not have control of some situations easy to handle and some situations complicated and difficult to handle. At present time, even with technology wherein people could easily communicate compared to the times wherein communication was difficult there still are a lot of complications, either due to conflict of beliefs, perceptions, interests and other factores, situations could really become difficult. Whether this may be situations could really become difficult. Whether this may be in foreign or international affairs, national government, business, school, families, relationships or some other circumstances, it could become difficult and complicated.
All of us often encounter problems whether personal or professional. It is a reality that we encounter difficulties, and the usual causes are actually plenty but these are influenced by our decisions and choices, not only one person but involving a lot of people, people who influenced the situation and the perceptions of the people involved wherein the conflict arised from.
The question is how do I resolve this situation? How do I fix my problem? How do I remedy this?
These are the usual first questions in reality...
But in dealing with situations or problems what is supposed to be the first question and necessary steps to be able to see all angles and remedy the situation in a healthy and effecient manner?
- Determine the Problem or the Situation.
(What is the problem or the situation? What is my personal accountability?)
- Determine the source of the problem or situation.
(Where did the problem arise from? Where did I go wrong? How was I thinking and feeling at that time?)
- Review all courses of actions and possible solutions.
(How do I remedy the situation, given all the facts?)
- Make your Choice or Decision while being fully Accountable, Responsible, Confident and Firm with your actions.
Now, in this given situation we see that when we analyze and determine the problem, we find out where the problem is coming from. There may be a personal accountability but occassionally no personal accountability. To analyze where the problem came from or the source of the problem, behind that was a choice and decision whether by you or someone else, but from there we cannot go back in the past and start pointing fingers but to fix the problem and make a choice at present to remedy this for the future.
DETACH YOURSELF FROM A SITUATION AND THINK CLEARLY OF YOUR CHOICES OR DECISIONS NOT INVOLVING YOUR PERCEPTIONS, PERSONAL INTERESTS AND FEELINGS. THEN MAKE AN OBJECTIVE DECISION.
Being master of your choices is difficult. In the earlier articles/ blogs, CHOICES; THE WORLD IS WHAT YOU MAKE IT and REALITY OF LIFE!!! RESPONSIBILITIES, whick all tackled on thinking process' or thought process' (Cognition), feelings, behaviors, attitudes and decisions explains the dynamics of a person. But, even though we understand our dynamics, sometimes it just is not enough to have the right attitude and thoughts to support our feelings and behaviors... We just could be so weak at times...
With these strength of character, high frustration tolerance, firm and positive thought process and understanding of reality and life is needed...
All these combined provides or re-inforces us with insights on thinking straight allowing us to become the Masters of Out Choices...
These self re-inforcements gives us wisdom, which is knowledge put into action. Being strong in character allows us to have a high frustration tolerance while being able to have firm stands or beliefs on what is right or appropriate, like we all do know what is right and wrong, its just that most times the people around us tend to be distorted, at times society could be distorted, but we don't really need to follow "NORMS" knowing that they are inappropriate or wrong. Having a high frustration tolerance allows us to live in stress, pressure, reality and problems without loosing our composures, staying calm and reasonable with our thoughts, feelings and decisions, and not getting affected by the situations given or happening, allowing us to be able to think clearly of our actions. Having a firm and positive thought process would allow us to be optimistic with life, giving us the upper hand in living life happily and positively, with a positive attitude and optimism problems, trials, obstacles does not become one instead this becomes a challenge to live more and learn from each and every experiences allowing us to grow and mature. Understanding reality and life gives us knowledge and wisdom on the world and how it goes around us, because one of the realities is that we are not the center of the world, not being the center of the world means that the world doesn't evolve for you and me only but for everybody else. Living in this world is synergy (learning from each other), like the previous blog i made FATE AND PURPOSE, explaining that we all have our purposes and each event happening in our lives has a purpose to serve not only for one but may also be more, meaning how we live life and understand the deeper meaning of it allows us to be aware of the environment and ourselves, therefore allowing us to become MASTERS OF OUR OWN CHOICES...
STRENGTH OF CHARACTER:
- allows us to have a high frustration tolerance while being able to have firm stands or beliefs on what is right or appropriate, like we all do know what is right and wrong, its just that most times the people around us tend to be distorted, at times society could be distorted, but we don't really need to follow "NORMS" knowing that they are inappropriate or wrong.
HIGH FRUSTRATION TOLERANCE:
- allows us to live in stress, pressure, reality and problems without loosing our composures, staying calm and reasonable with our thoughts, feelings and decisions, and not getting affected by the situations given or happening, allowing us to be able to think clearly of our actions.
FIRM AND POSITIVE THOUGHT PROCESS:
- allow us to be optimistic with life, giving us the upper hand in living life happily and positively, with a positive attitude and optimism problems, trials, obstacles does not become one instead this becomes a challenge to live more and learn from each and every experiences allowing us to grow and mature.
UNDERSTANDING REALITY AND LIFE:
- gives us knowledge and wisdom on the world and how it goes around us, because one of the realities is that we are not the center of the world, not being the center of the world means that the world doesn't evolve for you and me only but for everybody else.
Be in control of yourself by always being aware of yourself...
Be your own master rather than you being the slave of yourself also, its kinda ironic...
Be on top of yourself always and know how to think and then feel then to do or act...
Be the MASTER OF YOUR OWN CHOICES.......
Thursday, November 16, 2006
Friday, November 10, 2006
The World Is What You Make It...
Every individual is unique. They have their own characteristics, behavior, feelings involved, skills, background and a lot more.
All these unique abilities are brought about their unique thought process, cognition, or thinking...
These thought processes make our characteristics, behaviors, feelings, skills, and more...
See, THE WORLD IS WHAT YOU MAKE IT...
The way you see the world depends on how you choose to see it... We behave or act out depending on what we feel... If we feel sad or negative then we have negative behaviors, if we feel happy or positive then we make positive actions, but of course depends still on how your mind is programmed or your thought process defines positive and negative...
See how complicated it is... What one mind can do... The mind is really powerfull actually...
To continue a man always makes it with his positive attitude and breaks with the negative attitude...
A common thing today is that people have been too blinded by his negative attitudes, like what i explained in my recent blog "Dont Want Change?". People resort to negative behaviors due to negative thinking... This is also brought about by negative attitudes... Arrogance, Selfishness ,Irresponsibilitiy and some other negative attitudes... This hinders growth and development...
Unhealthy behaviors form... Unhealthy dynamics and cycles start and becomes part of the person... At times these leads to drug addiction, deppression, slacking off school or work, and a lot of other negative behaviors... Once these has begun, its hard reforming these back... Unless the person involved is OPEN. Open minded and determined in surrendering these negative attitudes and behaviors...
Like in another earlier blog of mine, "DECISIONS" things happen because of what we do... Each choice, each decision we make has a corresponding effect, positive or negative, it happens, its worst not to make these decisions. But then knowing that you have positive attitude and positive outlook i doubt you'll want to make bad decisions... Things happen through how we think... THE WORLD IS WHAT YOU MAKE IT...
Look at it this way...
COGNITION ------------> AFFECT/ AFFECTION -----------> BEHAVIOR
- Thinking - Emotions and feelings - Actions
Process
Our cognition goes first then the affect, then the behavior... This is simple as when we think, we then feel as we feel, we en act or behave...
So whatever we think, affects how we feel and how we feel affects how we act... So if I think positively then I inturn would feel positive allowing me to make positive acts...
"POSITIVE THINKING CREATES POSITIVE RESULTS"
The power of attitude is that our lives are not determined by what happens , nor by what life brings us, but by the attitude we bring to life. A positive attitude causes a chain reaction of positive thoughts, events, and outcomes, It is a catalyst, which creates extraordinary results.
"We become what we think about" -James Allen (As A Man Thinketh)
"I am taking control of each and every thought. Of course I still wage war with my wants. We as men and women are to dream, we are to dream, otherwise, what is heaven for?" -anonymous
See, all depends on us. On our choices. On how we will think leads to feeling and then leads to actions.
What will you think to make your world?
How will you think to make your world?
What do you choose your world to be?
"THE WORLD IS WHAT YOU MAKE IT"
All these unique abilities are brought about their unique thought process, cognition, or thinking...
These thought processes make our characteristics, behaviors, feelings, skills, and more...
See, THE WORLD IS WHAT YOU MAKE IT...
The way you see the world depends on how you choose to see it... We behave or act out depending on what we feel... If we feel sad or negative then we have negative behaviors, if we feel happy or positive then we make positive actions, but of course depends still on how your mind is programmed or your thought process defines positive and negative...
See how complicated it is... What one mind can do... The mind is really powerfull actually...
To continue a man always makes it with his positive attitude and breaks with the negative attitude...
A common thing today is that people have been too blinded by his negative attitudes, like what i explained in my recent blog "Dont Want Change?". People resort to negative behaviors due to negative thinking... This is also brought about by negative attitudes... Arrogance, Selfishness ,Irresponsibilitiy and some other negative attitudes... This hinders growth and development...
Unhealthy behaviors form... Unhealthy dynamics and cycles start and becomes part of the person... At times these leads to drug addiction, deppression, slacking off school or work, and a lot of other negative behaviors... Once these has begun, its hard reforming these back... Unless the person involved is OPEN. Open minded and determined in surrendering these negative attitudes and behaviors...
Like in another earlier blog of mine, "DECISIONS" things happen because of what we do... Each choice, each decision we make has a corresponding effect, positive or negative, it happens, its worst not to make these decisions. But then knowing that you have positive attitude and positive outlook i doubt you'll want to make bad decisions... Things happen through how we think... THE WORLD IS WHAT YOU MAKE IT...
Look at it this way...
COGNITION ------------> AFFECT/ AFFECTION -----------> BEHAVIOR
- Thinking - Emotions and feelings - Actions
Process
Our cognition goes first then the affect, then the behavior... This is simple as when we think, we then feel as we feel, we en act or behave...
So whatever we think, affects how we feel and how we feel affects how we act... So if I think positively then I inturn would feel positive allowing me to make positive acts...
"POSITIVE THINKING CREATES POSITIVE RESULTS"
The power of attitude is that our lives are not determined by what happens , nor by what life brings us, but by the attitude we bring to life. A positive attitude causes a chain reaction of positive thoughts, events, and outcomes, It is a catalyst, which creates extraordinary results.
"We become what we think about" -James Allen (As A Man Thinketh)
"I am taking control of each and every thought. Of course I still wage war with my wants. We as men and women are to dream, we are to dream, otherwise, what is heaven for?" -anonymous
See, all depends on us. On our choices. On how we will think leads to feeling and then leads to actions.
What will you think to make your world?
How will you think to make your world?
What do you choose your world to be?
"THE WORLD IS WHAT YOU MAKE IT"
Don't Want Change?
Normally, we have our own lives we go through and manage... We want consistency and security...
A lot of things in this world is uncertain. A lot of CHANGES, that is part of normal lives... Change is everywhere... New releases of artists' albums, cars, cellphones, computers and a lot more...
See, everything in this world is temporary...
Only one thing is permanent and that's CHANGE...
At times, we go through some changes. These changes usually deals with the common upgrades, updates of things like phones or cars and stuff... But most times we are uncomfortable with CHANGE. This shows in us being uncomfortable when we change structure or daily routine. There are uncertainties that we don't want to face, what will this "CHANGE" in routine, schedule or structure bring in my life. We don't want to face it. Another kind of change we don't feel comfortable with is change of address and stuff like that. But of course this may differ if the change of address is a better address, but at some point or to some certain extent there is that uncomfortable feeling.
These are all surface changes or changes on the outside...
How about change of self?This is the best example that one faces difficulties in changing.
Usually, people have been in denial with change...
People are usually in denial with their behaviors and attitudes...
As everyone goes with their everday things, they are confronted with their realities, whether responsibilities in work, at school, at home or anywhere involving being confronted by others or himself with his/ her attitudes. When this happens people then resort to denial or avoidance of the issue.
Have you ever experienced people who are just so full of themselves? or maybe people who are quiet because they regard themselves too much for others? even people who, when you confront start to back off by silent treatment or maybe lash back or be angry with you all of a sudden when all your trying to do is confront him with his negative attitudes... These people are hard to confront because you are dealing with arrogant and self centered people who do not want to open up to constructive criticisms from others to develop themselves and change themselves for the better, they inturn don't change, they are in denial and afraid of changing their attitudes that has clouded them into a defense mechanism either being arrogant, selfish, irresponsible and other negative attitudes, they are in their negative comfort zone that they don't want to get out from. They do not realize that these behaviors of theirs do not bring them positive results, instead maybe, loose some... They do not see this until they loose something or a major mistake has been done which affects him or her to realize his or her mistake.
People tend to loose themselves over their attitudes due to their past. They have went through experiences which caused them to acquire these attitudes to feel protected, and as they move with their lives, they don't gain new strength of characters, or new development in their personalities. They don't CHANGE...
With all these, it just shows that we are afraid of change. We all want to stay at the comfort zones we all got used to... This becomes a hindrance to growth and development...
This happens most times... Sad thing is, people usually are unaware of this... Maybe aware at times but just chooses to not CHANGE... That's distorted thinking already...
A lot of things in this world is uncertain. A lot of CHANGES, that is part of normal lives... Change is everywhere... New releases of artists' albums, cars, cellphones, computers and a lot more...
See, everything in this world is temporary...
Only one thing is permanent and that's CHANGE...
At times, we go through some changes. These changes usually deals with the common upgrades, updates of things like phones or cars and stuff... But most times we are uncomfortable with CHANGE. This shows in us being uncomfortable when we change structure or daily routine. There are uncertainties that we don't want to face, what will this "CHANGE" in routine, schedule or structure bring in my life. We don't want to face it. Another kind of change we don't feel comfortable with is change of address and stuff like that. But of course this may differ if the change of address is a better address, but at some point or to some certain extent there is that uncomfortable feeling.
These are all surface changes or changes on the outside...
How about change of self?This is the best example that one faces difficulties in changing.
Usually, people have been in denial with change...
People are usually in denial with their behaviors and attitudes...
As everyone goes with their everday things, they are confronted with their realities, whether responsibilities in work, at school, at home or anywhere involving being confronted by others or himself with his/ her attitudes. When this happens people then resort to denial or avoidance of the issue.
Have you ever experienced people who are just so full of themselves? or maybe people who are quiet because they regard themselves too much for others? even people who, when you confront start to back off by silent treatment or maybe lash back or be angry with you all of a sudden when all your trying to do is confront him with his negative attitudes... These people are hard to confront because you are dealing with arrogant and self centered people who do not want to open up to constructive criticisms from others to develop themselves and change themselves for the better, they inturn don't change, they are in denial and afraid of changing their attitudes that has clouded them into a defense mechanism either being arrogant, selfish, irresponsible and other negative attitudes, they are in their negative comfort zone that they don't want to get out from. They do not realize that these behaviors of theirs do not bring them positive results, instead maybe, loose some... They do not see this until they loose something or a major mistake has been done which affects him or her to realize his or her mistake.
People tend to loose themselves over their attitudes due to their past. They have went through experiences which caused them to acquire these attitudes to feel protected, and as they move with their lives, they don't gain new strength of characters, or new development in their personalities. They don't CHANGE...
With all these, it just shows that we are afraid of change. We all want to stay at the comfort zones we all got used to... This becomes a hindrance to growth and development...
This happens most times... Sad thing is, people usually are unaware of this... Maybe aware at times but just chooses to not CHANGE... That's distorted thinking already...
Uncertainty
In this world of responsibilities and realities, we all have suffered from problems. We dealt with anxieties and fears. We all have gone through different experiences in which we learn from. We either become stronger or weaker, and some other characteristics. Despite character strength or experience, one thing that always has bothered if not everyone almost everyone... Is the fear of UNCERTAINTY...
People have this fear of the uncertain. In this world a lot has changed because of this fear, it may have been good and at times becomes bad especially when this becomes bothersome.
Everything ever since has become uncertain, that's why history tried to prove human roots and where we all came from, coz maybe from there, an explanation of life may be found or reason for existence may be found. From there; Religions, gods, pagan gods, practices, rituals and other cultures has been formed or was founded. This is one example shows that people try searching for answers. Answers to human existence or the uncertain. From this alone, Religion may be doubted. But I'm not going there in this blog...
So, that's the roots of the Uncertain. People try to have understanding on the uncertain, on the unfamiliar and other stuff people can't explain. Sometimes it may be explained through a lot of things like religion, aliens, paranormal and other stuff. Its not that I am saying that I don't believe in these things. Its just a theory of mine that these are the work of the mind. Work or concepts made to satisfy our minds of the uncertain or unfamiliar. Trying to reason with our roots, our existence, our purpose and a lot of other things.
A lot of people of today have a lot of problems. Especially anxieties, these anxieties are the uncertain, a lot of what's, what if's, where's, how's and other questions...
Like:
What will happen tomorrow?
Where do i get money?
How will i do all these deadlines tomorrow?
How would people react to what I'm wearing?
What will dad do? Will mom allow me to do this and that?
A lot of questions, anxieties and problems dealing with uncertainty...
Having these anxieties and fear of the uncertain then becomes an obstacle for most people. This hinders them from moving on or doing things. This becomes a headache for us. We become vulnarable because of these uncertainties. We have a thing hanging out there. At times, if we are pesimistic, these uncertainties can become a block or a brake for us to move on.
Defenitely, our fear of the uncertain has become a hindrance to development. This has also caused some people to stick to superstitious beliefs and stuff...
This uncertainty has been with us eversince time... This has changed the course of history and still does... Just like the impossible, there are also a lot of possibilities... Wether uncertain or not... Things don't happen if one doesn't give it a shot... Optimism... Letting go of things one cannot control and changing the things that one can control...
People have this fear of the uncertain. In this world a lot has changed because of this fear, it may have been good and at times becomes bad especially when this becomes bothersome.
Everything ever since has become uncertain, that's why history tried to prove human roots and where we all came from, coz maybe from there, an explanation of life may be found or reason for existence may be found. From there; Religions, gods, pagan gods, practices, rituals and other cultures has been formed or was founded. This is one example shows that people try searching for answers. Answers to human existence or the uncertain. From this alone, Religion may be doubted. But I'm not going there in this blog...
So, that's the roots of the Uncertain. People try to have understanding on the uncertain, on the unfamiliar and other stuff people can't explain. Sometimes it may be explained through a lot of things like religion, aliens, paranormal and other stuff. Its not that I am saying that I don't believe in these things. Its just a theory of mine that these are the work of the mind. Work or concepts made to satisfy our minds of the uncertain or unfamiliar. Trying to reason with our roots, our existence, our purpose and a lot of other things.
A lot of people of today have a lot of problems. Especially anxieties, these anxieties are the uncertain, a lot of what's, what if's, where's, how's and other questions...
Like:
What will happen tomorrow?
Where do i get money?
How will i do all these deadlines tomorrow?
How would people react to what I'm wearing?
What will dad do? Will mom allow me to do this and that?
A lot of questions, anxieties and problems dealing with uncertainty...
Having these anxieties and fear of the uncertain then becomes an obstacle for most people. This hinders them from moving on or doing things. This becomes a headache for us. We become vulnarable because of these uncertainties. We have a thing hanging out there. At times, if we are pesimistic, these uncertainties can become a block or a brake for us to move on.
Defenitely, our fear of the uncertain has become a hindrance to development. This has also caused some people to stick to superstitious beliefs and stuff...
This uncertainty has been with us eversince time... This has changed the course of history and still does... Just like the impossible, there are also a lot of possibilities... Wether uncertain or not... Things don't happen if one doesn't give it a shot... Optimism... Letting go of things one cannot control and changing the things that one can control...
Fate and Purpose
We all have our own share of decisions and choices. We live by these choices everyday. Mistakes are done through these decisions, and through these mistakes we learn, we become stronger, we become more wise and mature with our decisions.
With all these in mind. We still are living in a world for a purpose. In my earlier blog I wrote about decisions, it says that we are in control of our fate, we determine our fate through our decisions or the choices we make. All these decisions and choices are influenced by a higher power if we choose to believe in one or not. These then allows us to serve out purpose.
See, we go through a lot of things and the simple things that we do could affect other people's lives. As an adult, being in college. One purpose is going to college, classes, friends, lunch breaks, hang outs, and other extra curricular activities. In all these things, we get to affect ones life, wether through inspiring them to work hard and achieve because of us being a responsible role model in school or we could influence others not to be interested in classes and just hang out more rather than studying. These things do happen, wether it be the professors being lazy, irritable, motivated to teach or whatever, this is due to the behaviors of certain students in class. This touches the teacher in a sense that it could mould her character. To the other people in school, we affect them in simple or big ways, but all these defenitely affects their lives or decisions or choices.
Even in simple things that we do, like drive a car around, buy from a store, walk around the mall or the park, go to work, bonding with family. In each of these situations we get to affect people around us. Affecting how they would see life and vice versa. You could think about these certain scenarious yourself and how it affects others...
We are all connected as people. Social beings that could learn from each other or break each other. In what we do, we are all interconnected that we do affect others to make their choices and decisions affecting their fate or their purpose to others also. This interconnected web goes so wide and depends on what your fate or purpose does. Some people are simple people, some entertaining, some powerful or infuencial in their own field of specialty and so on. You could then see how each affects people. Simple people could touch others in ways that their simplicity is just so humbling, entertaining people touches in a way that they make us happy and motivated, infuencial and powerful people determines a lot in society... Etc...
This could go on and on. Because fate and purpose does not stop. As long as society exists this goes on and on.
To sum all things up...
In all that we do, we affect guiding principles in life of other people, affecting their decisions and choices, thus affecting their fate and purpose since decisions and choices is the determining factor of what lies ahead of us or our fate and in what we do we affect others and this becomes our purpose...
What have you done to contribute to this interconnected cycle?
Have you served your purpose or have you helped others in your own simple way?
Maybe we all could do something to make society better by serving a better purpose and then determining a better fate for ourselves and society...
With all these in mind. We still are living in a world for a purpose. In my earlier blog I wrote about decisions, it says that we are in control of our fate, we determine our fate through our decisions or the choices we make. All these decisions and choices are influenced by a higher power if we choose to believe in one or not. These then allows us to serve out purpose.
See, we go through a lot of things and the simple things that we do could affect other people's lives. As an adult, being in college. One purpose is going to college, classes, friends, lunch breaks, hang outs, and other extra curricular activities. In all these things, we get to affect ones life, wether through inspiring them to work hard and achieve because of us being a responsible role model in school or we could influence others not to be interested in classes and just hang out more rather than studying. These things do happen, wether it be the professors being lazy, irritable, motivated to teach or whatever, this is due to the behaviors of certain students in class. This touches the teacher in a sense that it could mould her character. To the other people in school, we affect them in simple or big ways, but all these defenitely affects their lives or decisions or choices.
Even in simple things that we do, like drive a car around, buy from a store, walk around the mall or the park, go to work, bonding with family. In each of these situations we get to affect people around us. Affecting how they would see life and vice versa. You could think about these certain scenarious yourself and how it affects others...
We are all connected as people. Social beings that could learn from each other or break each other. In what we do, we are all interconnected that we do affect others to make their choices and decisions affecting their fate or their purpose to others also. This interconnected web goes so wide and depends on what your fate or purpose does. Some people are simple people, some entertaining, some powerful or infuencial in their own field of specialty and so on. You could then see how each affects people. Simple people could touch others in ways that their simplicity is just so humbling, entertaining people touches in a way that they make us happy and motivated, infuencial and powerful people determines a lot in society... Etc...
This could go on and on. Because fate and purpose does not stop. As long as society exists this goes on and on.
To sum all things up...
In all that we do, we affect guiding principles in life of other people, affecting their decisions and choices, thus affecting their fate and purpose since decisions and choices is the determining factor of what lies ahead of us or our fate and in what we do we affect others and this becomes our purpose...
What have you done to contribute to this interconnected cycle?
Have you served your purpose or have you helped others in your own simple way?
Maybe we all could do something to make society better by serving a better purpose and then determining a better fate for ourselves and society...
Decisions!!!
I never thought that life was just very simple... I always thought things are and could be complicated... There are so many things that I couldn't control, but then again, I could be in full control...
See I or even others may look at life as complicated, hard, painful, and other things, and its completely true until I choose to make a decision...
Life is full of decisions, and if one's not made then one's life ceases to exist. Every day, and every moment we all make our decisions. Whatever decisions these are, it then determines what happens to us. Wether be in an accident, get into trouble, gain respect, earn money, pass the exams, make it on time for engagements or commitments and even feel happy or sad...
There may be an instance that a person decided to leave the house earlier than the time he's expected to leave for work, then he gets into an accident... What if? he didn't leave earlier? what could have happened if he left on time or later or even earlier than the time that he left? Even if its just for a couple of seconds...
Would he be in an accident? Maybe not, the car that might have hit him could've passed alrady or even did not reach that point of hitting him...
Funny but true...
Sometimes, the question may be, what if I didn't drop by that gas station? I shouldn't have lost my cell in that select shop if i didn't...
See these simple things are affected by every small decision made...
There are also instances where one is at prison or isolation but sometimes I see that they could be happy. There are also times that the person may be poor or even really in poverty but then they are more happier, even if they are in the slums than the people in exclusive villages. There may also be times that a country so poor can be more happier than of that rich countries.
These examples are reality. There may also be the break up factor with an EX, there can also be work or school pressure, there can also be family or peer pressure or some other things that's bothering us right now that makes one sad, depressed or even angry.
I realized that this is sadness or happiness is just a state of mind... One thing that can always free us wether from prison, isolation, depression, saddness, pressure, poverty, etc. is again decision...
Making decisions for yourself would always be beneficial to one. Its hard to do but possible to. Another reality is that one can feel sad about something but then this doesn't change the situation... Depression doesn't get back the EX... Feeling pressured doesn't change how the world treats you...
Change has to come from you... Make a decision... Accept the situation that you couldn't change for now... Then be glad... I guess its better to feel glad than sad... Coz either way reality or the world still doesn't change for you... Feeling glad would actually feel better and make you achieve much much more... Optimism...
We loose control sometimes but letting go is better.
"No control is full control"
The more that one lets go of things he cannot control... The more he is the master of him/herself...
Being free from worries, sadness, negativity and other problems...
"Why am I free? coz I decided to be"
Don't allow your feelings to be in complete control of you... Be in control of your feelings...
This doesn't become an excuse to escape responsibilities... Nor this doesn't become an excuse to step over other people... Its for personal happiness...
Doing things for oneself... But with concern for others...
Did you already make your right decisions?
Hope you did...
See I or even others may look at life as complicated, hard, painful, and other things, and its completely true until I choose to make a decision...
Life is full of decisions, and if one's not made then one's life ceases to exist. Every day, and every moment we all make our decisions. Whatever decisions these are, it then determines what happens to us. Wether be in an accident, get into trouble, gain respect, earn money, pass the exams, make it on time for engagements or commitments and even feel happy or sad...
There may be an instance that a person decided to leave the house earlier than the time he's expected to leave for work, then he gets into an accident... What if? he didn't leave earlier? what could have happened if he left on time or later or even earlier than the time that he left? Even if its just for a couple of seconds...
Would he be in an accident? Maybe not, the car that might have hit him could've passed alrady or even did not reach that point of hitting him...
Funny but true...
Sometimes, the question may be, what if I didn't drop by that gas station? I shouldn't have lost my cell in that select shop if i didn't...
See these simple things are affected by every small decision made...
There are also instances where one is at prison or isolation but sometimes I see that they could be happy. There are also times that the person may be poor or even really in poverty but then they are more happier, even if they are in the slums than the people in exclusive villages. There may also be times that a country so poor can be more happier than of that rich countries.
These examples are reality. There may also be the break up factor with an EX, there can also be work or school pressure, there can also be family or peer pressure or some other things that's bothering us right now that makes one sad, depressed or even angry.
I realized that this is sadness or happiness is just a state of mind... One thing that can always free us wether from prison, isolation, depression, saddness, pressure, poverty, etc. is again decision...
Making decisions for yourself would always be beneficial to one. Its hard to do but possible to. Another reality is that one can feel sad about something but then this doesn't change the situation... Depression doesn't get back the EX... Feeling pressured doesn't change how the world treats you...
Change has to come from you... Make a decision... Accept the situation that you couldn't change for now... Then be glad... I guess its better to feel glad than sad... Coz either way reality or the world still doesn't change for you... Feeling glad would actually feel better and make you achieve much much more... Optimism...
We loose control sometimes but letting go is better.
"No control is full control"
The more that one lets go of things he cannot control... The more he is the master of him/herself...
Being free from worries, sadness, negativity and other problems...
"Why am I free? coz I decided to be"
Don't allow your feelings to be in complete control of you... Be in control of your feelings...
This doesn't become an excuse to escape responsibilities... Nor this doesn't become an excuse to step over other people... Its for personal happiness...
Doing things for oneself... But with concern for others...
Did you already make your right decisions?
Hope you did...
Out of life’s school of war: What does not destroy me makes me stronger
In history, experience has been the best teacher. Lessons, insights, realizations, reflections and learning are picked up through different experiences, experiences in the family, school, economy, church and government. Hardships have been part of life and reality. With these hardships comes experience. With experience, lessons are learned. As we live in our everyday lives, experience and hardship has been a part of it. This then becomes of our advantage, learning and strengthening us through these experiences. Discussing different scenarios wherein we may pick out strengths and weaknesses knowing that, frustrations only increase our tolerance levels and what does not destroy us makes us stronger.
In many situations, it has been proven that experience has become a strengthening factor in many ways. In the family, at times, there are conflict of beliefs, generational gaps, different lifestyles and circle of friends. This then may become difficulties. Most times children have a hard time understanding the parents on some rules or sometimes unreasonable decisions. There may be times that children are not given the opportunity to have equal freedom unlike other children, due to strict parents. This then becomes a difficulty for the child, questioning himself or getting frustrated, called internal conflict. This experience allows him to increase his frustration tolerance and builds his strength of character into a more patient child. The child may feel so much frustration over this but in the end he becomes a stronger individual. In school, there are also difficulties faced. It has been proven that grades are achieved if there is a sense of responsibility. In these difficulties that often times are torturing or very hard, these struggles in turn become strength, molding students into more responsible students. In addition, failure may also become strengthening experiences. Failure may give motivation or challenge for the person to achieve after realizing that he or she must face the difficulty, then he learns to be mature and face up to reality. Another aspect is the economy. An example is
Japan;
Japan’s economy has collapsed after World War 2. Stabilizing
Japan’s economy has become very difficult. There have been many struggles like trial and errors, economic sanctions, and country rebuilding. This crisis that
Japanwent through has become a strengthening experience in their part. Nationalism was developed. The country has risen up slowly until today that they have become one of the economic superpowers of the world, proving their strength and rise from economic collapse. Also, the church has gone through plenty of struggles. There have been a lot of attacks against the church in history. The Catholic Church has been criticized and mocked in different ways. An example is the Spanish conquest of the
Philippines. The Spanish was spreading and teaching the Catholic Churches gospel. During that time, the
Philippineshad their own beliefs and some were Muslims. In the Philippine history, Magellan, the Spanish who led the Spanish fleet to the
Philippineswas welcomed warmly, it was only when the Spanish started teaching Catholic beliefs that the ancient Filipinos fought back. This has become a struggle in the Catholic Church. But to this date the Catholic Church is now standing strong. Lastly is the government. The world is governed by rules and society today exists because of the government. History again showed different kinds of governments or governance. There has become the monarchial, communist type, democracy and other ancient governance. These all evolved through experience, and past trial and errors, until it has developed to what we call our Government today. In the
Philippines, the present administration went through a lot of destabilization plots and attacks against it. It went through impeachment attempts, coup de tats, international crisis, the natural calamities or storms and the oil spill. Now with all these struggles and experiences the Arroyo administration has stood up and going strong with more understanding in how to govern the
Philippines.
Now that history, experience, difficulties and struggles has proven itself to be the perfect school and teacher. It proves that in this world, in this reality. There may be a lot of struggles and difficulties that sometimes, we may feel that this destroys or kills us, but then when we survive this and realistically thinking does not destroy or kill us, we in turn becomes stronger. Through difficult experiences we learn, become better, become more patient, become more responsible, and become stronger. Definitely, in the school of war, what does not destroy us makes us stronger
In many situations, it has been proven that experience has become a strengthening factor in many ways. In the family, at times, there are conflict of beliefs, generational gaps, different lifestyles and circle of friends. This then may become difficulties. Most times children have a hard time understanding the parents on some rules or sometimes unreasonable decisions. There may be times that children are not given the opportunity to have equal freedom unlike other children, due to strict parents. This then becomes a difficulty for the child, questioning himself or getting frustrated, called internal conflict. This experience allows him to increase his frustration tolerance and builds his strength of character into a more patient child. The child may feel so much frustration over this but in the end he becomes a stronger individual. In school, there are also difficulties faced. It has been proven that grades are achieved if there is a sense of responsibility. In these difficulties that often times are torturing or very hard, these struggles in turn become strength, molding students into more responsible students. In addition, failure may also become strengthening experiences. Failure may give motivation or challenge for the person to achieve after realizing that he or she must face the difficulty, then he learns to be mature and face up to reality. Another aspect is the economy. An example is
Japan;
Japan’s economy has collapsed after World War 2. Stabilizing
Japan’s economy has become very difficult. There have been many struggles like trial and errors, economic sanctions, and country rebuilding. This crisis that
Japanwent through has become a strengthening experience in their part. Nationalism was developed. The country has risen up slowly until today that they have become one of the economic superpowers of the world, proving their strength and rise from economic collapse. Also, the church has gone through plenty of struggles. There have been a lot of attacks against the church in history. The Catholic Church has been criticized and mocked in different ways. An example is the Spanish conquest of the
Philippines. The Spanish was spreading and teaching the Catholic Churches gospel. During that time, the
Philippineshad their own beliefs and some were Muslims. In the Philippine history, Magellan, the Spanish who led the Spanish fleet to the
Philippineswas welcomed warmly, it was only when the Spanish started teaching Catholic beliefs that the ancient Filipinos fought back. This has become a struggle in the Catholic Church. But to this date the Catholic Church is now standing strong. Lastly is the government. The world is governed by rules and society today exists because of the government. History again showed different kinds of governments or governance. There has become the monarchial, communist type, democracy and other ancient governance. These all evolved through experience, and past trial and errors, until it has developed to what we call our Government today. In the
Philippines, the present administration went through a lot of destabilization plots and attacks against it. It went through impeachment attempts, coup de tats, international crisis, the natural calamities or storms and the oil spill. Now with all these struggles and experiences the Arroyo administration has stood up and going strong with more understanding in how to govern the
Philippines.
Now that history, experience, difficulties and struggles has proven itself to be the perfect school and teacher. It proves that in this world, in this reality. There may be a lot of struggles and difficulties that sometimes, we may feel that this destroys or kills us, but then when we survive this and realistically thinking does not destroy or kill us, we in turn becomes stronger. Through difficult experiences we learn, become better, become more patient, become more responsible, and become stronger. Definitely, in the school of war, what does not destroy us makes us stronger
What I Hate!!!
One thing I hate the most in this world is unreal people...
People who are covering themselves up in their own pseudoselves...
People who do not want to wake up and face the world...
Instead...
Become a fake...
Fake in front of other people and fake to themselves...
This is what I call DENIAL...
"PLASTIC" PEOPLE
Sometimes they even make gossips about other people, push them around, degrade them or even insult them on their faces just to cover their insecurities in his or her life...
Fake people... People that can't live a day without stepping on others for their personal gain...
Arrogant, Selfish and very Irresponsible people...
To those people who think that they are like this... Its not too late...
Wake up and be real...
Stop stepping on others just to cover yourself up...
Personally... I'd rather be with boring but REAL people or with my dogs...
I respect them more and I believe others would also do...
People who are covering themselves up in their own pseudoselves...
People who do not want to wake up and face the world...
Instead...
Become a fake...
Fake in front of other people and fake to themselves...
This is what I call DENIAL...
"PLASTIC" PEOPLE
Sometimes they even make gossips about other people, push them around, degrade them or even insult them on their faces just to cover their insecurities in his or her life...
Fake people... People that can't live a day without stepping on others for their personal gain...
Arrogant, Selfish and very Irresponsible people...
To those people who think that they are like this... Its not too late...
Wake up and be real...
Stop stepping on others just to cover yourself up...
Personally... I'd rather be with boring but REAL people or with my dogs...
I respect them more and I believe others would also do...
Reality of Life!!! Responsibility
There are a lot of realities in life... Different aspects... Different ways of facing these realities... Different realities...
We all have our own realities... The funny thing is that a lot of us has a hard time facing realities...
One reality in life is RESPONSIBILITIES. Responsibility in a relationship, with God, family, school or work, friends, superiors, subordinates, society, or even intimacy... Most of these are neglected...
With our lives now. One funny thing is that we all have time for all the stuff in the world but there's this one time I asked myself... Why do I still neglect all these things? all my responsiblities?
The answer I found was that because I was selfish thinking only of myself. Being insensitive and irresponsible or sometimes becoming irrational...
But I did care for all these I mentioned on top...
The thing is that I was not looking at these as responsibilities... So I just have percieved I did face my responsibilities, even though I really never did!!!
RESPONSIBILITY WITH THE FAMILY is so broad... Because time and effort has to be invested... Help has to be given within it but keeping into mind that will this help really be helpful to my family in the long run... Am I really helping or am I just pleasing them? There is a difference because if you were pleasing then again its selfishness coz you want them to be pleased by YOU...
RESPONSIBILITY WITH SCHOOL OR WORK... Some of the people go to school or work but maybe not... People like these just go to school or work just to get over the day... Not thinking or putting REAL effort in what their purpose in school really is... In effect they do not get to do their responsibility at work or school...
There's actually a lot more...
Reality's all about being responsible in living it and facing it...
Its just how strong we are in facing them...
And how we face them...
Now... Its just up to you guys how'll you deal with your realities...
We all have our own realities... The funny thing is that a lot of us has a hard time facing realities...
One reality in life is RESPONSIBILITIES. Responsibility in a relationship, with God, family, school or work, friends, superiors, subordinates, society, or even intimacy... Most of these are neglected...
With our lives now. One funny thing is that we all have time for all the stuff in the world but there's this one time I asked myself... Why do I still neglect all these things? all my responsiblities?
The answer I found was that because I was selfish thinking only of myself. Being insensitive and irresponsible or sometimes becoming irrational...
But I did care for all these I mentioned on top...
The thing is that I was not looking at these as responsibilities... So I just have percieved I did face my responsibilities, even though I really never did!!!
RESPONSIBILITY WITH THE FAMILY is so broad... Because time and effort has to be invested... Help has to be given within it but keeping into mind that will this help really be helpful to my family in the long run... Am I really helping or am I just pleasing them? There is a difference because if you were pleasing then again its selfishness coz you want them to be pleased by YOU...
RESPONSIBILITY WITH SCHOOL OR WORK... Some of the people go to school or work but maybe not... People like these just go to school or work just to get over the day... Not thinking or putting REAL effort in what their purpose in school really is... In effect they do not get to do their responsibility at work or school...
There's actually a lot more...
Reality's all about being responsible in living it and facing it...
Its just how strong we are in facing them...
And how we face them...
Now... Its just up to you guys how'll you deal with your realities...
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